Let’s be honest, breakups are hard, and whether or not you wanted it to happen or not, they still suck. I have a friend who has recently gone through a breakup, and considering the fact that we all have been in her position, sometimes more than once, I am going to give y’all some tips on moving on. So get out a snack, a drink, and a box of tissues; we’re diving down the rabbit hole.
“I threw your shit into a bag and pushed it down the stairs…”
- Get rid of the evidence: I know this part may seem a bit drastic, but hear me out… Maybe you weren’t together for too long and therefore don’t have that much to get rid of. But, if you’ve been with this person for a substantial amount of time, you have probably accumulated enough pictures, poems, and presents to create a small love archive. In this case, the best philosophy is “out of sight, out of mind.” Regardless if you decide to follow Icona Pop’s advice and throw everything down the stairs, or just hide it away from sight until your heart heals is entirely your call. Just make sure you can’t see anything that reminds you of him like a stuffed animal that he won you at a carnival or pictures that the two of you took at 2 am with McDonald’s in the background. These memories may have been sweet at the time, but now it’s a constant reminder of the hole in your heart and they need to not be seen.
2. Delete Contact Info: Phone numbers, email, Facebook, Twitter, and all other forms of social media or communication need to be eradicated from your phone. This erases the temptation to drunk dial, late-night dial when you’re sad and in a weak state of mind, or just stalk him a ridiculous and unhealthy amount. This will only make you sadder and increase the feeling that you have made a mistake when you have not. This also works both ways. If they are continuously contacting you and you’re just trying to move on, block them! You are totally within your right to not talk to them and that actually is a form of harassment that is not okay. If all else fails, just step away from the internet for a while. Some fresh air will do you good.
3. Find some other interests: Take time to do things you never had the time for in a relationship. Take up knitting, go workout, read a book, eat cake, do something that you enjoy. It’s a good way to take your mind off things and to get you to put on real clothes and get out of the house. Taking up new hobbies is also a great way to meet new people, and by no means does this mean start a new relationship before you are ready NO. I mean it is a good way to meet similar people with similar interests.
4. Allow yourself to be sad!: You are not Wonder Woman, and unless the guy was a total jerk-wad that you were happy to get rid of, you are going to experience some emotion. It’s completely normal to be sad even if the breakup was mutual because you are ending a chapter on one part of your life just to begin a new one. If you don’t allow yourself to be sad then you won’t truly be able to let go of the past. So listen to all those cheesy breakup songs, eat a pint of ice cream, and surround yourself with people who care about you.
5. Reinvent yourself: Do you want to cut your hair? Chop it! Do you want a new piercing? Pierce away! Change up your makeup, try some new outfits, and have fun shopping for a new you! However, since you are a tad bit emotional at the moment, you may want to hold off on the full-on transformation for a time when you are more level-headed. Just stick to the mani-pedi and maybe some highlights. Another add-on to this is going to the gym really helps keep your mind off things. Stick to a routine or maybe take a new class with a friend like kickboxing, spin, or even pole dancing!
Hopefully, some of these ideas helped you. Some are common knowledge and available on the internet, but there is solace in knowing that you aren’t the only one experiencing a horrible breakup.